It took an unexpected tragedy to transition my life. That transition took me down a road of self-discovery. Ultimately I came to the decision to take a break and put myself first. Which lead me to rediscover parts of me that were lost and hidden from prior pains setbacks and putting others before myself.
It took an unexpected tragedy to transition my life. That transition took me down a road of self-discovery and inner work. I begin questioning everything. From what had I done with my life up until that point? Were the last ten years of my life a total waste? Ultimately what I ended up discovering was my true self.
That tragedy forced me to stop and assess. I had just turned 36 and a huge turning point in a girl's life. I was on the cusp of entering the last phase of my thirties. Preparing myself mentally that 40 was around the corner.
I never was the girl that sat and planned out her life by society's standards. You know the list…by this age you should be married and this age kids. Nope, I wasn’t that girl. I did however have certain career ambitions and dreams. I learned coming out of college the quick realities of the real world to get there.
Throughout my life, I extended my hand to help others along the way. I must admit my kind heart caused me to overextend. Eventually, I found myself burnt out with nothing left to give. Then tragedy hit all at once when a close friend passed away untimely.
Honestly, it was the RESET I needed to assess my own foundation. I had to take a hard look at my life from my career, friends, activities, inner circle and village. Were they in alignment with my goals, life plans and the lifestyle I wanted for myself? Were they adding value to my happiness joy and peace? Sadly the answer was NO!
I begin to understand why I was at such a stalemate in life and stuck. Why it took longer for my dreams to take flight? I journeyed on a much-needed break. In 2019, I begin shutting off from the world and those who knew me. I needed some time to heal and rediscover LaTonya.
There comes a time in life when you have to put yourself first and do what’s best for you! I’ve always been a confident individual. Especially when it comes to owning who I am. Throughout life, I found I was always playing the role of helping others discover their own inner confidence and show up as themselves. I came to a point where I realized if I’m going to serve in this capacity with my time and devotion. Then it has to serve me as well.
Ultimately the decision to take a break and put myself first. Lead me to rediscover parts of me that were lost and hidden from prior pains, setbacks and putting others before myself. I’m 40 now and I made a promise to myself the next 10 years won’t be like the last 10 years.
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