at Her best style

It took an unexpected tragedy to transition my life. That transition took me down a road of self-discovery. Ultimately I came to the decision to take a break and put myself first. Which lead me to rediscover parts of me that were lost and hidden from prior pains setbacks and putting others before myself.
My Story
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It took an unexpected tragedy to transition my life. That transition took me down a road of self-discovery and inner work. I begin questioning everything. From what had I done with my life up until that point? Were the last ten years of my life a total waste? Ultimately what I ended up discovering was my true self.
That tragedy forced me to stop and assess. I had just turned 36 and a huge turning point in a girl's life. I was on the cusp of entering the last phase of my thirties. Preparing myself mentally that 40 was around the corner.
I never was the girl that sat and planned out her life by society's standards. You know the list…by this age you should be married and this age kids. Nope, I wasn’t that girl. I did however have certain career ambitions and dreams. I learned coming out of college the quick realities of the real world to get there.
Throughout my life, I extended my hand to help others along the way. I must admit my kind heart caused me to overextend. Eventually, I found myself burnt out with nothing left to give. Then tragedy hit all at once when a close friend passed away untimely.
Honestly, it was the RESET I needed to assess my own foundation. I had to take a hard look at my life from my career, friends, activities, inner circle and village. Were they in alignment with my goals, life plans and the lifestyle I wanted for myself? Were they adding value to my happiness joy and peace? Sadly the answer was NO!
I begin to understand why I was at such a stalemate in life and stuck. Why it took longer for my dreams to take flight? I journeyed on a much-needed break. In 2019, I begin shutting off from the world and those who knew me. I needed some time to heal and rediscover LaTonya.
There comes a time in life when you have to put yourself first and do what’s best for you! I’ve always been a confident individual. Especially when it comes to owning who I am. Throughout life, I found I was always playing the role of helping others discover their own inner confidence and show up as themselves. I came to a point where I realized if I’m going to serve in this capacity with my time and devotion. Then it has to serve me as well.
Ultimately the decision to take a break and put myself first. Lead me to rediscover parts of me that were lost and hidden from prior pains, setbacks and putting others before myself. I’m 40 now and I made a promise to myself the next 10 years won’t be like the last 10 years.
I developed At Her Best Style to help you uncover what makes you unique. While redefining your own SELF-IMAGE, MIND and STYLE!